you've said a great expression dear  


yes yes...we may lose our feelings without "pain" and "challenge" ...


here is the pass word: "Will"


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thanks a lot dear  étoile,  
Best Reagards

 
We are all faced with challenges constantly in every area of our lives. Most people have a hard time accepting and dealing with these challenges that arise. The truth is that you will have to deal with difficult problems throughout your life, whether they are in your personal life or career. Most of us get really afraid and run away from problems because we do not  want to accept the reality  of the way it is. Running away from your problems is the worst thing you can do to deal with the challenges you face. I have some tips for you below on learning how to deal with everyday challenges. Start now and develop the self-discipline to practice the below points.

1.Do not overreact: Overreacting to a problem will cause you to make bad decisions. When we are not in control of our emotions, we will make decisions that we will regret later. Next time you are faced with a challenge, you have to be the watcher of your thoughts and stay calm so you can make smarter decisions.

2. Accept present moment reality: Accept the way things are and the way people are. You have to understand that not everything is going to be the way you want it to be. If you cannot accept reality you will feel very frustrated with your life. Many people will try to change someone or something that they cannot control, and when it doesn’t work out for them they feel miserable. Once you can accept reality (including the challenges that you face), you will be able to be more calm and think more clearly about how to get a step further towards your goals every day.

3. Do not blame others: Many people make a habit of blaming others for all their problems. They fail to take full responsibility for the decisions they have made in life. The more you blame others with the challenges you are faced with, the more you will make people dislike you and not want to be around you. The first thing you want to do when faced with a personal challenge is not to start pointing fingers at others.

4. Practice detachment- Make a habit of detaching yourself from any outcome. Detachment means that you are not attached to any given result in life. I remember in the past when I did public speaking and got really nervous. The reason I was fearful of public speaking was because I was too caught up thinking about what the audience was thinking of me. The fact is that there are some people that are not going to like what you say and others who may like what you have to say, therefore your job is to accept the way people are and not get worked up emotionally and mentally over someone not liking you. When you start practicing detachment, many of your fears and insecurities will disappear.

5. Do not  overanalyze: When you think too much about a situation or event that occurred, you will start to judge everything and everyone. When you think too much you will have a very tough time accepting reality and you will think that something is not right. Overanalyzing can also cause you to not take action on your goal, which can make you really frustrated in the long run.

6. Accept “changes’ in your life: You will have to deal with changes in life all the time. Many people don’t like change and they resist it because it gets them outside of their comfort zone. You may be unhappy or happy at certain times; however you have to realize that those two states are not permanent. You have to train your mind to be at peace at all times regardless of the emotional state you experiencing.

7. Do not  compare your lifestyle with others: I know it is really difficult not to compare ourselves with other people, however the more often we do that, the more frustrated we will feel. There will be people that may have accomplished more than you. The key thing to remember is that you create your own story and success in life.

Best regards for all ..
have fun  

 
Raghad,  
Raghad you've shone this topic!



I hope so  
Happy to see your valuable participation!

زمردة,  

Happy to see your interesting participation dear, allow me to write short comments on each of your points.
You have chosen three important points:
• Accepting reality means to recognize "The starting point" in your own life!
• Logical thinking is the best key to live all adventures positively!
• You have the pen (I mean the "Brain") to write this story, the ink of this pen is your experiences!

   

 
Back to you  

Today I will not ask you questions   . I will try to discuss some secrets in your life.  

Everyone tries to be successful in his/her life, I mean, we may figure out many secrets to be successful in life. Those secrets come from our own experiences in life.  

Talk about your own secrets, and –if it is possible- explain some of them.

 
Peace be upon you.....

As usual it is an interesting topic, but this time I really want to hear your own experience as well as from all the graduated and the successful members here so so as we can benefit and learn from you .


um .....Who will be the first successful person......?


Remember  do not b emiserly about sharing your own stories


Regards,

 
étoile,

Hello again!  
Sorry for being late   , now I will write about my secrets, but be careful and don't envy me   :

Everyone looks for "Success" to be fulfilled in one's life, this long trip presents many secrets; few people know how to use these secrets in order to continue their life successfully but most people don't pay attention to these essential secrets, so they waste their life on worthless things.

To me, I believe in using these secrets to leave our own "print" in this world. Frankly, I have concluded three secretes till now :

1- Do not compare yourself with people: you have to believe in your own abilities, thoughts, and ideas which distinguish you from others. You are created to achieve your own success, this success is designed only for you, because it suits your own abilities.

Your circumstances may be difficult, but put in your mind that these difficulties are just like rocks on your way; your abilities will move those rocks aside.

2- Do what you want "against the grain": do not care what other people think, you will face many negative points of view, and if you think about them, you will be weak. Be sure, you are not forced to satisfy all people, it is impossible to be "Ideal with all people".

3- Be flexible: you are surrounded by different kinds of people, so you have to deal with them successfully. Try to establish good relations with all classes in your society; this helps you to exchange your experiences and get new ideas. If you enhance your relations, you will discover new secrets for success.

Finally, everyone can figure out lots of secrets after every stage in his/her life, and only the conscious one will exploit them to make his/her life better.

So what about your secrets??!!  

My best regards  

 
....Peace be upon you

It's I again:)


 
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May I ALLAH protect you from the evil eye, I wish all you all the best.


That's true, Everyone has his/her own  abilities and way to achieve his/her goals -'' it is horses for courses''




Flexible and also consistent with your beliefs and principles at the same time , because some people
abandon what they used to believe in, just to satisfy and to please the others, but they forget that it is hard,  as you mentioned,  or even impossible to please everyone. You may encounter people who encourage you while others  daunt and dispirit you or even they ridicule on you , but this is life, is full of all kind of people .


Thank you for sharing your own secrets, and by the way I really like your style of writing

All the best