In cha ALLAH,

I've forgotten to thank you, this is very kind of you to correct our mistakes
The problem is that sometimes I cannot write  in such topics and develop it due to the lack of ideas and inspiration even if in the Arabic language, sometimes I get blocked .

 
All the best,

 
étoile,  

As I said dear …you are welcome
Just read to get more ideas, this will motivate you to write your own topics …
This will be real as soon as possible …

Good luck dear  

 
dear all  
let me present this new topic  
     

 
Dealing with angry people in our society is becoming increasingly challenging. Some days, it seems  that  anger surrounds us at home, in the workplace, on the roadways, and at the sports events. It is easy to get caught up in an escalating the spiral of angry exchanges which usually upsets everyone and does nothing to improve communication or to solve the problem at hand.

As an alternative, this survival guide is designed to provide practical tips on how to deal with two types of angry people in your life:
(1) explosive people who might be dangerous and
(2) people who are chronically angry toward you.

PART 1- EIGHT TIPS TO DEAL WITH EXPLOSIVE PERSONS WHO CONFRONT YOU: DEFUSING POTENTIALLY DANGEROUS SITUATIONS:

1. Do not respond in kind. Hostility often begets more hostility.
Respond instead with a non-hostile message to defuse people who are behaving in a hostile manner toward you. The classic example of this is in when simple inconsiderate driving or even aggressive driving suddenly escalates into road rage due to two drivers ratcheting up hostility in response to the other's hostile acts, words, or gestures.

Please remember that in these and other hostile situations, you contribute somewhat to the outcome by your decision to return hostility or not.

2. Take their upset seriously and validate their feelings.
Listen to what they have to say and hear them out; ignoring them or minimizing their feelings will tend to escalate their anger further. There have been untold numbers of workplace violence incidents that could have been averted had supervisors or managers listened with empathy to disgruntled employees rather than responding in an insensitive, or uncaring manner.

3. Respond to the feelings they are having - not the content of what they are saying.
Try to hear and respond to the underlying hurt or pain the person is experiencing underneath the angry words. Use statements such as "I can appreciate why you feel that way," "It sounds like you are very angry right now," "Many people feel the way you do."

4. On roadway, don't make eye contact with an aggressive driver.
This is the secret signal in the animal world to engage in combat and will frequently escalate things, sometimes into "road rage." Just ignore aggressive drivers and stay out of their way.

5. Allow angry people to physically escape the situation.
Don't block their way or prevent egress, or you may be putting yourself in a dangerous situation. Take off the heat rather than increasing the pressure! Don't insist on solving the problem "now" when the other person is in an agitated state.

6. Don't defend yourself by attacking back at them or their character flaws.

Defensiveness often escalates anger in the other person and, in fact, is one of the predictors of divorce, according to recent marital research. There is a time to present your side, but not when your partner is unable to hear it due to his or her anger.

7. Don't try to solve an emotional issue with logical arguments.

Trying to diffuse an angry person with overwhelming evidence of their thinking errors or mistakes in logic, or facts to the contrary, or reasons for why they shouldn't feel the way they do, or why they should feel differently - usually makes the situation worse.

Part 2- HOW TO DEAL WITH PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE WHO ARE CHRONICALLY ANGRY TOWARD YOU.

1. Consider changing your behavior that triggers their anger.
Sometimes the most practical thing to do is to change whatever it is that triggers anger in people close to you. Not that you should go overboard on this, but simple changes can do a lot, especially if they don't lower your self-esteem or don't "cost" you a lot to change.

2. Think about terminating the relationship.
Truth is, some relationships we get involved in are so "toxic" that it is self-abusive to continue in them or to try and repair them. At times, you need to protect yourself from people in your life who create an atmosphere that is not good for your well-being.

3. Limit your time spent with them.
If terminating the relationship is too drastic of a step, consider simply limiting the time you spend with toxic people in your life.

4. Ask them directly why they are often appear angry toward you.
A straight line is the shortest distance between two points. Sometimes the quickest way to find out why someone appears constantly angry with you is to simply ask them. They may not even realize they were communicating angrily toward you, so your inquiry may open up a great opportunity for dialogue.

5. Communicate clearly how their negativity affects you.
Honestly letting people know how their behavior is affecting you emotionally is often an "eye-opener" to the other person. Start with "I feel" statements rather than "you" or "you should" statements.

6. Adjust your expectations of them.
People may be chronically angry toward you because you communicate that they are disappointing you in some way and they are perceiving you as overly critical. Adjusting those expectations you have toward others may result in their being less angry toward you!

7. Stop trying to solve unsolvable problems in a relationship.
According to some marital researchers, up to 60% of issues in a relationship are unsolvable due to the couple's being
"strangled" around it. Trying to solve unsolvable problems creates much anger. Instead, find a way to dialogue about the issues and live with each other around them, rather than trying to fix them.

8. Suggest ways to remedy anger, if the other person acknowledges he or she has an anger problem.

If the angry person in your life is open to it, suggest an evaluation by a psychologist or physician to determine what the problem is. There are many underlying problems such as Depression and Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD), and other conditions which can lead to anger problems.

 
Just some thoughts,

 
Getting angry becomes nowadays a common phenomenon that affects not only the younger generation but also the elderly. As long as it is crowded, it is more likely to live through amazing experiences! However it is not the matter of overcrowding but rather of profound lack of integrity.
The bus is one of the most crowded places where you cannot even find a place to put your foot and sniff a fresh air, as the university is far away from home, I always take two buses to go to the university and so do I to return home, thus, I usually encounter such people who get angry for trivial things, act in childish way and throw their stress over you.Once, a tremendous bad- tempered driver, and when I say "bad," I mean "BAD"! He was extremely furious, drove the bus rashly and at the same time hung his head out the window, swearing, yelling, and shouting at the drivers as well as the pedestrians.
Indeed, rage is considered as the disease of our times, therefore to come to a solution, we need a radical change in our behaviour, a culture of forgiveness and tolerance, and a strong ethic, added to that, we are in need of parents who make children’s education the top priority. By doing that, we can at least make people act and behave in respective way towards the others.
There is no doubt that the key of happiness is forgiveness that is why we should deal with the faults of others as gently as with our own. So, when you get angry remember the HADITH of our Prophet MOHAMMED peace be upon him:
“A strong person is not the person who throws his adversaries to the ground. A strong person is the person who contains himself when he is angry.”

At last, calm yourself down, be happy

 
Best regards,

 
It is really nice  
Now, allow me to quote some ideas from your topic   :


It is suitable to be "an  introduction" to our topic, it is easy and interesting.


 
Do you know! you represented the "Angry Person" in a good way, we saw him via your description…really nice!  


Really   , it is important to suggest some solutions  


So important to prove our ideas through saying a proverb or HADITH..

I liked it really , happy to see your  participation…and I am waiting for more  
Thanks a lot ..

 
Ranaa,  
You are the one who should be thanked, it is very kind of you
I know that it is not what is supposed to be, but just some dispersed ideas
All the best

 
Hello again:

Back to this topic  

Today I want to ask you about " Challenges ".
Oh! Challenges are the worst thing in our life -this is the negative way in thinking-:  

Let me ask you some questions:  

- Explain this word "Challenge"-from your point of view-!
- How do you deal with challenges that you face in your life?
-  What kind of "solution" do prefer in order to face challenges?
-  Do you blame others for your problems instead of looking for a solution??
- Do you prefer to take "a decisive decision" to face your challenge or you give some time in order to find the solution ? Discuss your options about this point!

Waiting for your opinions ^^

 
Safwat,
thanks brother for your continuous participations in this topic.
Hope you the best

 
As always don't hesitate to nitpick what I've written.


Being a challenger is your straight path to be over the top

Challenge is what makes you alive and ablaze with the excitement and the determination to fulfill your plans regardless to the constraints of life.
It is when you put your targets in front of you, when you are engrossed and obsessed with your beliefs, when you realize that the ‘’magic day’’ will surely come and all the difficulties will fade away.
Without a challenge, your life does not have any sense, because since you are satisfied with your current situation, you will have neither the chance to improve it, nor the opportunity to discover your concealed energy.
Challenge cuts your daily routine, and makes each day a rebirth, thus, each minute of your life should be meaningful, special and better than the previous one.
No matter how difficult it may be to meet your goals, you should have a strong will as well as an ambition that knows no bounds.
I would like to conclude with an amazing saying’’ Accept the challenges so that you may feel the exhilaration of victory’’

 
Kind regards